My husband and I are thinking of moving from California to Kentucky. We won’t be very close to my family and I am second guessing my decision only because I think I will miss my family. If they lived here there I would be so happy as I think I would like Kentucky a lot and can see a very nice life there for our children. We would be leaving Southern California because of the cost of living. We want to buy a house for us, and maybe I could work up to being a stay at home mom to our kid(s). That dream probably would come true here, as we’d both have to work to get by and then we’d have to put our infants and toddlers in daycare. I know we can stick it out, but it is hard finding anything we can afford and live in comfortably. My husband wants to take a leap of faith and just get up and move there; where we can probably afford to buy a nice house with a yard and sooner or later can stay at home with the children. We could have a great life there. But I think I’d I miss my family very much and most importantly feel very badly about my children not having their grandparents in their daily life, holidays, birthdays, etc. I had that growing up and it was nice to have my grandparents and aunt's, uncle's, and cousins around and spending every holiday together. I mean it will be lucky if we can visit them 1-2 times a year, which is not very much. I am fearful to buy a house now in KY as I see the housing market to continue to increase and wonder if it is worth making the trek. Or do we stay here, where I would need to work to keep our heads afloat. Or do we go forward with our plans and live that great life there in a beautiful spacious house with a yard and slower paced lifestyle. My husband wants to get out of California, and is excited about building our life there and the potential that we might not have to struggle and worry about finances and our future. I know he is getting annoyed with me for being on the fence and not wanting to buy a house there. I am stalling our happiness or am I ? What is happiness, a great stress-free day to day life? Extended Family?? I am struggling with what is the morally right thing to do? Be with family and share all the moments or make my life there with my own little family and visit the extended family whenever we can?!
