If you are to break down every word that I have ever said to you in an argument, I bet they would all look similar. But you will probably say that I am nagging, annoying or being combative because I am trying to address recurring problems in our relationship. But here is the thing, the last year or so, I have gone silent; and I don't want to do that any more! Every time you think I am nagging, I am simply asking for help! That "nagging" is me trying to save what we have; me pleading for you to listen and it is evidence that I still love you! But you stop listening the second you start to interpret my communication as criticism. Without understanding that it is only being repeated because it is unresolved. But you don't want to hear it, even though I am telling you exactly what I need and giving you a road map to make things work.
Know that I am not telling you to change; I am simply asking you to bring back the side of you that made me fall in love with you in the first place.
Also know that I did not get angry or numb over night, but with the fact that I keep being rejected by the present version of you, I tend to hold on to the past version of you and reminisce. I have been waiting and fighting like hell to bring that back!
Just because we have been together for five years, does not mean we cannot become strangers.
Starting to grieve the loss of the man I thought you were. So maybe stop being frustrated by all those words I say and try being grateful for them instead.
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