Do you ever feel like he is in love with what what used to be?
He used to be amazing. He would take you on dates. Go the extra mile to show he cared, but now, all he cares about is sex. Everyday he comes home and expects just that. He believes that is duty of the marriage.
It bothers me that you believe I am less intimate without considering that you may have changed after the vows.
Think about the man you were when you and I were dating. Think about how you treated me when you were pursuing us, compared to now, in taking me for granted. You criticize me for being less intimate after we have had children without even considering that I could be exhausted from being the primary care take of two [toddler] boys that you helped create.
Your day typically ends at 5pm, and my days ends at never!
Was I supposed to be turned on from watching you sit on the couch or at your pc, while i struggled to cook dinner, wash the dishes, and help the kids? You complain that I am too tired to be intimate, but you refuse to do anything to lighten my load.
When was the last time you questioned my emotional needs, the way you like me to consider your physical ones? Becasue you love to call me emotional or nagging when you are trying to insult me, but you can't understand lack of emotion satisfaction in the relationship may be the driving force behind a low libido. Just because you don't see the work that goes in running the household, doesn't make it any less important or exhausting.
You constantly minimize my efforts to obsolve yourself of your resposibility at home.
It is hard to feel loved or appreciated if you refuse to acknowledge my efforts.
Your vows did not entitle you to my body. And the fact that you want me to have sex with you out of obligation rather than desire is exactly what makes it undesirable.
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