Make your partner feel loved everyday
We all have different partners in life. The one you want to spend the rest of your life, share your dreams with, and care about. The one you are proud to talk about with your family and friends. The one who compliments, challenges, and sometimes provides you with the constructive feedback you need to hear.
Your partner could be your wife or husband, boyfriend or girlfriend, or fiance. (For me, that is my boyfriend!)
As you know, life can get busy and like many, we can easily forget to remind our partners just how much they are loved. But if you are intentional, you can make your partner feel loved every day by doing some simple things like this:
1. Smile, hug and kiss your partner.
Smiling alone can brighten up not only your partner’s day but yours too. It is proven to help reduce stress and increases productivity. Smiling is contagious so why not smile with your partner every day? Even babies smile while in the womb. (In addition, you can give your partner a passionate hug and kiss every day. Personally, it’s the last thing l do before l leave home and the first thing to do when l get back home.) A 1-minute hug, kiss and smile could lead to many things for your partner, yourself, and your relationship.
2. Compliment your partner.
Tell her she is beautiful. Tell him he is handsome. Compliment their character quality or places you can see they are making an effort in. Sometimes I like to text my bf a random text or I love you note. Sometimes the compliment can be in the form of a thank you. “Thank you for remembering what I asked you to do, I really appreciate it. Thank you for trying to change this habit, it means a lot to me. Thank you for working so hard for us.” Or something like, “ You are so good at cooking/ social situations/ making me feel loved,” etc.
I know he appreciates the texts, so compliments even the littlest of things he/ she does will boost her confidence. It helps him to know l see the little and big things he does. He also feels appreciated and loved. l am sure if you do the same for your partner, your relationship will become better.
3. Say “Thank you for choosing me.”
Thank your partner for choosing to be with you. Being with someone is a choice we make every day. We choose them every day over the temporary pleasures, over our selfishness; and they do the same. Your partner chose YOU out of the billions of people in this world. Be thankful!
4. Listen to your partner.
Listening is a skill that requires intentional effort from you. Listening means you give your full and undivided attention to what your partner says. Never listen and think about your response. Your partner will be able to communicate better with you if he/she knows you listen to what they say. When you listen to your partner, you will also be able to provide them with constructive feedback on questions, ideas, or discussions they have with you.
5. Spend time together.
It could be cooking, going to dinner, playing a video game at home, or going out to an event. This is the time you get to connect with each other on a different level. You get to ask your partner about their day and tell them about yours. During this time, you can talk about your goals as individuals as well as a couple. Share what you are learning. You get to have great conversations, laugh, and be happy in each other’s presence. Do something together every day, even if it is taking a bath together.
When it comes to spending time together, my bf and I try to at least see each other for an hour every day; after we are done with work. We are very intentional about spending time together every day because it helps us to connect with each other. It has made us grow closer together and we look forward to that time every day.
Choose whatever time that fits your schedule and commit to spending that time together with your partner.
6. Encourage your partner to achieve their goals.
We all have dreams. I have some BIG ones, and l am sure you do too. Your partner also has some BIG dreams. Despite how well we plan and act on our dreams, there are days when you feel like giving up. When the hindrances and roadblocks seem unending. However, a little encouragement from your partner could be all you
need to overcome the obstacles and achieve your dreams.
Spend a few minutes every day to encourage your partner to achieve their dreams. If your partner does not have one, help them figure it out. You are in this together.
7. Say “l love you.”
Say it in person, via text, social media, email, etc. Say it when you wake up first and or when you go to bed; whisper l love you to their ears. If your partner works from home, put a note saying “l love you” on their computer, tablet, or phone screen. In my case, it’s usually changing her screen saver or wallpaper to say “l love you.” You could leave it as a voicemail or send it as a video too.
As you can see, we can all do these simple things for our partner’s every day. I challenge you to pick three of these simple things and start doing them for your partner today!
